Schedule special Time
"Love is spelled T-I-M-E."
Preschooler Example:
As part of your daily routine, set aside 15 to 20 minutes each day (or every other day if alternating with a spouse) to spend one-on-one with your child. If your preschooler asks you to play when you're busy, you can say, "I can't play right now, but I'm really looking forward to our special time after dinner." During the scheduled time, give your child your undivided attention.
Grade-schooler Example:
As part of your daily routine, set aside 15 to 20 minutes each day (or every other day if alternating with a spouse) to spend one-on-one with your child. If your grade-schooler asks you for your attention when you're busy, you can say, "I can't right now, but I'm really looking forward to our special time after dinner." During the scheduled time, give your child your undivided attention.
Teenager Example:
For your teenager, commit to weekly or monthly dates when your teen can count on uninterrupted and undivided quality time with you.
Explanation:
Although any quality time has value, the consistency and dependability of special time gives it extra value. Children compete less for your attention knowing they can count on and look forward to quality time with you on a regular basis. Also, it's easier to give yourself fully to your child's favorite activities (e.g., pretend play) when the time is set.